Shabbos Pinchas
6:25pm Mincha (Please be on time!)
7:47pm Candlelighting
7:55pm Mincha
7:00am Shacharis Hashkama minyan
8:00am Rav Summers Gemara shiur is on hiatus until Elul (when the shiur will continue w/Yevamos)
9:00am Shacharis
Kiddish is unsponsored. Contributions graciously accepted by the Anshe Emes Kiddish Committee.
Mark Magid Shiur approx 20 mins after Kiddish
4:30pm Women’s Pirkei Avos shiur at the Summers’ home – 1453 So Durango
7:00pm Mussar Shiur w/Rav Summers
7:45pm Mincha
Seudah Shlishit sponsored by Rabbi & Mrs Miller.
8:57pm Shabbos Ends
Proactive Parenting- Phase II- Parenting Your Pre-Teen, Teen, and Young Adult (even if you missed the first one, please come!)
This five part series looks at the parenting challenges of this age group. It explores the dynamics of Jewish parenting in today’s world and provides concrete strategies to achieve results. Is your teen a challenge? allergic to his/her parents? moody and unpredictable?a different person each day?
Come join us and let’s talk.
Format: Five one hour sessions consisting of lecture followed by a Q & A period.
Time: Tuesday evenings- 8:00 – 9:00 July 7 – Aug 4
Place: Sarah Kaufman – 1445 S. Durango
Fee: $50 for five sessions $45 for members
Contact: Debbie Summers – debbitzen@anshe.org
This lecture series is give by Dr. Sara Teichman, a psychotherapist in private practice and Clinical Director of the Etta Israel Center. She is the author of the critically acclaimed parenting column “Ask Dr. T.” published in Binah and Jewish life and lectures throughout the community.
Joe Socher
Joe Socher’s Father was niftar (in Cleveland). The levaya will be Sunday morning @ 9am at Shalom Memorial Park in Sykmar (hansen dam area off the 210 freeway). More details to follow as they are known.
Ross Family Childcare
Flyer attached
Membership Packets
We are sending the membership packets (in addition to the bi-monthly calendars) via email. If someone would like good old fashioned hard copies mailed to them, please call the shul office!
Female Roommate Wanted
Share a brand new guest house with fully equipped kitchen/granite counters near La Brea & Beverly Dr. Must be shomer shabbos and kashrus. Available mid-August $650/month contact Devorah Leah at 347-598-1988
Tisha B’av @ Anshe Emes
We have Rabbi’s Goldberg, Stuhlberger and Miller coming to Anshe Emes for shiurim during this Year’s Tisha B’Av program. If anyone is would like to sponsor any of these shiurim/speakers, please contact Rav Summers.
Hachnassat Orchim needed
Are you going away after Tisha B’Av? We have family coming from east coast, and no place to put them. Looking for housing for 4 nights for SLEEPING ONLY, August 14-17, for young Kollel family with 2 boys (ages 8,1); Prefer as close to Anshe as possible, east of Robertson, south of Pico. Call Shoshana Abensour 310-278-4783 or email, dodajo@gmail.com. Tizku l’mitzvot!
Kiddish Committee (KC) Payment Policies
Absent prior arrangements, Kiddush or Shalosh Seudah are provided only after funds are given directly to a member of the Kiddush Committee at least 3 days before the event.
Kiddush Club letter from Rav Summers:
Dear Member of the Anshe Emes Kehilla,
I am writing you in order to address an issue that has been looming in Anshe Emes, as well as in greater Klal Yisroel for a number of years. This issue is “Kiddush Club”.
In many Kehillos, including our own, a custom (to be differentiated from a minhag – which has some halachic basis) has developed where certain individuals exit Shul during the haftara and return sometime later. This custom has apparently developed for a number of understandable reasons.
Some feel that davening is too long and therefore find it difficult to go two and one half hours without a break is difficult. Some like the “chevrashaft” – the camaraderie developed by a small group of people getting together to share a few moments, especially on Shabbos. Once again, these are understandable points. However, I feel that we need to approach this issue taking into account these perspectives but also balance it with a Torah viewpoint.
One of the first points that needs to be addressed is walking out of Shul . In Siman 55 (see Mishnah Brurah 14) states that an individual should not leave Shul , unless there is a compelling reason or unless that individual has completed davening. An analogy comparison is would one leave in the middle of a business meeting? Further, besides the basic halachic issue, there are also two other points
- Chinuch – our children observe everything and we need to think about what message are we sending to the next generation when we leave Shul to eat and drink.
- The effect on others in the Shul because all of a sudden the Shul empties out leaving a small group (who should be lauded for their interest in having an undisrupted davening).
Some have mentioned “achdus” as a motivation for the “Kiddush club” , but I would like to counter with the effect of achdus upon the majority of those who remain in Shul during their absence. As we know, each person is valuable and therefore each persons departure from shul has an effect that is felt by everyone.
Another point that needs to be addressed is that one is obligated to hear the haftara (see Mishnah Brurah siman 284 , 12) this is the reason why we wait until the Gelila is finished to start the haftara – so that those going Hagba and Gelila can listen to the haftara. There is also a point in regard to drinking in the middle of davening because the Halacha is clear that if one drinks (something intoxicating) during davening there is a clear halachic issue (see Shulchan Aruch siman 99). Again here we have another question of Chinuch – what kind of message are we sending to our children when ones goes out to drink in the middle of davening?
Finally, the last issue is one that is more personal. More and more “members” of the Kiddush Club have been arriving tardy for the Dvar Torah. I’m sure we can all appreciate the tremendous lack of Kavod Ha’Tora that occurs when this happens. Each word of Torah is a mitzvah in and of itself and when we miss even part of the drasha we are missing the opportunity to obtain the greatest of mitzvos – Limud Ha’Torah.
Of course things might improve for a few weeks but the “slippery slope” effect seems to set in and nature seems to lend that members start coming later and later to the drasha. Once again, besides the issue for the member itself, the issue that I think needs to be focused on is what message are we sending to our children (Do we really want to risk sending them the message that Torah is not so important to Daddy?). This is not to mention the achdus issue of the effect it does have on others in the Shul who feel it when a number of people walk in once the drasha has already started.
Again, I want to recognize and appreciate the emotional aspects of a “Kiddush Club”, but at the same time I want to take responsibility in that we are charged to follow Torah and Halacha and subjugate our will to those guidelines.
I want to emphasize that I appreciate the opportunity to discuss this issue and any issue with anyone and especially with the wonderful people who we have here in Anshe Emes. For the same reason, the sterling and upstanding dedication to Torah and Torah hashkafa, I feel I have no choice but to cease our “Kiddush Club”. I know that this will be difficult for some but I am confident that, in time, the richness of an undisturbed davening will far outweigh the perceived benefits that we will be missing out on.
I encourage and look forward to discussing and clarifying this or any issue with anyone. I am available before and after minyan and by phone at (310) 203-0331.
Sincerely
Rabbi Yitzchok Summers
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